Nigel and I were married for eleven years.
People always want to know what happened, like there has to be one big thing. There wasn’t. It was a thousand small things. It was him working late and then later. It was me asking about his day and getting one word back. It was the way he started talking to me like I was a coworker he was stuck sharing an office with. By the end, we were two people who knew where the other one kept the scissors and not much else.
He was the one who said it out loud first.
“I think we both know this isn’t working.”
We were sitting at the kitchen table. Dustin was asleep upstairs. Nigel had his hands folded in front of him like he was in a meeting.
I remember I didn’t cry. I just said, “Okay.”
He looked almost disappointed, like he’d prepared for a fight and I hadn’t given him one.
“Okay?” he said.
“What do you want me to say? You’re right.”
The divorce itself was quiet. No screaming, no lawyers throwing papers. We sold the house and split it. I got a smaller place across town with a yellow kitchen and a backyard barely big enough for a swing. Nigel got an apartment downtown with a doorman and a view of a parking garage. We agreed on every other weekend for Nigel, plus Wednesday dinners.
And I made myself a set of rules.
I never wrote them down, but I knew them by heart.
Never say anything bad about his father in front of him.
Never ask him to carry messages.
Never make him feel guilty for having fun at his dad’s.
Never make him choose.
My own parents divorced when I was eight. My mother used to sit me on the edge of her bed and tell me every terrible thing my father had ever done. Then on Sundays, she’d send me off to his house with a list of questions to ask him. Is he seeing someone? How much did that new TV cost? Did he say anything about me? I spent four years of my childhood as a spy in a war I didn’t understand. I hated both of them for it, a little. I still do, a little.
I swore Dustin would never feel that.
So when Nigel was late picking him up, I said, “Dad’s just stuck in traffic, honey.” When Nigel forgot Dustin’s soccer game, I said, “He’s really busy at work right now, but he loves you.” When Nigel canceled a weekend with a two line text, I took Dustin for pancakes and never once said what I was thinking.
For the first year, it worked. Dustin went to his dad’s every other weekend and came back tired and happy and full of stories about the pizza place by Nigel’s building and the video games Nigel let him play past bedtime. I listened to every story like it was the best thing I’d ever heard.
Then, last spring, Nigel started dating Annabelle.
I found out from Dustin.
“Dad has a girlfriend,” he said one Sunday night, dropping his backpack by the door. “Her name is Annabelle. She has a white dog named Biscuit that bites.”
“Oh,” I said. “Is she nice?”
He shrugged. “She’s okay. She’s really pretty.”
“Well, good,” I said, and I meant it. Or I tried to mean it. I wanted Nigel to be happy. A happy Nigel was a better father. That’s what I told myself.
But over the summer and into the fall, something started to change.
Dustin came home quieter.
At first, I thought he was just tired. Then I thought maybe it was a phase. Ten year olds get moody. That’s what all the parenting websites said. But it wasn’t moody. Moody is slamming a door. Dustin didn’t slam anything. He just came in, said hi, went to his room, and closed the door very softly behind him.
He stopped telling me about the pizza place. He stopped telling me anything.
“How was your weekend, bud?”
“Fine.”
“What did you guys do?”
“Nothing really.”
“Did you see Biscuit?”
“Yeah.”
“Did he bite you?”
That got a tiny smile. “He tried.”
And then nothing again.
One Sunday in September, he came home and didn’t eat dinner. I’d made his favorite, chicken with the crispy skin and mashed potatoes, and he just moved the potatoes around his plate with his fork, building little walls.
“You okay?” I asked.
“Yeah.”
“You’re not eating.”
“I’m not hungry.”
I put my fork down. “Dustin. Did something happen at Dad’s?”
He kept building his potato wall. Then he said, very quietly, “Mom, do you think you dress bad?”
I laughed, because I didn’t understand yet. “Do I dress bad? I mean, I’m not winning any awards. Why?”
He didn’t answer.
“Dustin.”
“Nothing. Forget it.”
“Hey.” I reached across the table and put my hand on his. “You can tell me anything. You know that. Whatever it is, you won’t get in trouble.”
He looked at my hand on top of his. Then he looked up at me, and his eyes were wet.
“Annabelle says stuff about you,” he said.
My stomach went cold.
“What kind of stuff?”
He shook his head. “I don’t want to say it.”
“It’s okay. I promise. I’m a grown up. I can handle it.”
He took a breath.
“She said you have terrible taste in clothes. She said it when we were looking at pictures on Dad’s phone. There was one of you and me at the beach, and she said, ‘God, your mom has terrible taste in clothes.’”
I made myself keep my face still.
“Okay,” I said. “That’s not very nice. But it’s not a big deal, honey. Some people like different things.”
“There’s more.”
I waited.
“She said, ‘She really lets herself go, doesn’t she?’ And Dad didn’t say anything. He just kind of laughed.”
I nodded slowly. My hand was still on his. I hoped he couldn’t feel it shaking.
“And one time,” Dustin said, and now he was talking faster, like he needed to get it all out before he lost his nerve, “I was supposed to be asleep, but I got up to get water, and they were in the kitchen, and she was laughing, and she said, ‘Seriously, how did you stay married to her that long?’ And Dad said…”
He stopped.
“What did Dad say?”
Dustin looked down at his plate.
“He said, ‘Honestly? I have no idea.’”
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