We had a 4 years relationship with plans of marriage for this year, our relationship was good, or at least I believed so.
A couple of months ago I found out that she was cheating on me, and the worst thing, that she was pregnant, at first I told her that our relationship is over, that she should leave, she told me that she doesn’t want it and that she wanted to work in the relationship, I told her that there’s no way I’m not raising her kid, that if she wants me to stay, she should abort him (she was in the 9th week so it could be done only with abortion pills).
I gave her the options, she could leave but she decided to choose me over her baby, she did it and she aborted, we went to the hospital to get sure she was clean and there was no risk of infection, after that I believed we could keep with our relationship since her affair ran away after she told him she was pregnant.
The thing is that she got a severe depression after that, almost every night she woke up crying, she was seeking for so much affection, even more I could give her since I have to work, it only endured some weeks before I got tired of that, not only physically but mentally too, I told her that we’re finishing this, our relationship is over, she got very, VERY mad about it, she even tried to hurt me but it was easy to stop her, I called her parents and they took her to their home.
After that I talked with my parents and told them everything, even everything she said to me after I broke up with her, it seems she blames me for making her kill her baby with the promise of working in the relationship but that I ended breaking up with her instead.
That’s were the opinions begin to clash, both of my parents said that I didn’t force anything, that she made her choice according of the risks of it, and one risk is that the relationship would never be able to heal.
My best friends (M27 and F26) think the same, that I shouldn’t even give her the opportunity to stay with me, my male best friend even told me that he could present me a girl that will help me to forget my ex faster, that that’s the best way to overcome a breaking up.
But my younger sister said that I deliberatedly made my ex kill her son as a revenge, something that isn’t true, what is true is that I don’t feel remorse of that because it was HER SON and HER DECISION, not mine, then she said that I at least should be with her until she’s mentally prepared to move on, but what about me? I’m trying to think of my own mental health first, but my sis says I’m an asshole for leaving my ex alone in this time, what should I do?
