My Sister Grabbed My Husband’s Hand at My Promotion Dinner and Said “I’m Pregnant” — Then I Opened the Envelope That Turned Their World Upside Down
My fork was halfway to my mouth when my sister’s voice cut through the restaurant noise like broken glass.
“Actually, Val, we have some news to share too.”
I set the fork down slowly. We were at the Velvet Oak — low lighting, dark wood, the soft rain against the windows that Seattle does like a second language. I’d chosen this place deliberately. It was where we came to celebrate things that mattered.
I’d just been offered the COO position at my firm.
I was thirty-two years old, and the salary package was nearly double what I’d been making. Stock options that would change my life. Everything I’d worked for since college was sitting in a folder on a conference table, waiting for my signature.
All I wanted was to share that with the two people I loved most.
I looked across the table expecting joy.
Instead, I saw a hand.
My sister Stacy reached across the white tablecloth. Her fingers — manicured in aggressive red — locked onto the hand of the man sitting beside her.
My husband, Derek.
The ambient jazz vanished. The other diners disappeared. There was just that hand. His hand. The hand I held during our wedding vows, the hand I held when his mother died, the hand I’d touched that very morning before I left for work.
Derek didn’t pull away. He didn’t laugh. He didn’t look at me.
He stared at the breadbasket like it contained the meaning of existence.
Stacy squeezed his fingers. It was a gesture of ownership that made my stomach turn.
She looked me dead in the eyes, chin tilted up in that defiant way she’d had since we were teenagers.
“I’m pregnant,” she said. “And it’s Derek’s.”
Before I tell you what I did next, I need you to understand how we got here.
Because this didn’t start that night at the Velvet Oak.
This started on a swing set when I was twelve years old.
I was pushing Stacy — she was seven, small and delicate, born premature with big blue eyes that could summon tears on command. She screamed for me to push her higher, higher, always higher. On the third push, she let go.
To this day I don’t know if she slipped or did it on purpose. What I know is that her arm snapped when she hit the ground. And when my mother ran out of the house, she didn’t ask what happened. She didn’t check on me.
She looked at me with pure anger and said, “What did you do? You know she’s fragile. Why are you always trying to hurt her?”
I was the older sister. The capable one. The one who didn’t need help.
That label followed me everywhere.
When I graduated with honors, my parents said, “That’s nice,” and asked about Stacy’s latest plan. When I got my first job, they reminded me that Stacy was struggling with rent. When I married Derek, Stacy cried at the reception because she was still single — so I paid for her plus-one’s flights, hotel, and meals.
I spent twenty years trying to prove I wasn’t the selfish sister who broke Stacy’s arm.
I paid off her credit cards. I covered six months of her rent in two years because the freelance market was “tough.” I helped with her car, her phone, her therapy.
And while I was doing all of that, she was sitting in my living room, taking inventory.
Every time she admired my kitchen, asked about my bonus, or commented on Derek’s car — she was calculating.
I just didn’t know it yet.
Derek and I had been married five years.
Five years of me working late nights and carrying the financial load while he “figured out” his career. Insurance sales, then solar panels, then luxury cars — always inconsistent commissions, always a reason why this month was slow.
I didn’t mind. I loved him. Or I thought I did. Looking back, I’m not sure I loved Derek so much as I loved the idea of us working together, building something side by side.
He loved having someone to build things for him.
That’s a different thing entirely.
As I drove my Tesla down I-5 that Thursday afternoon, the rain streaking the windshield, I had planned the whole evening. The best Cabernet on the menu. The news about the promotion. Then — the moment I’d been saving — telling Derek we could finally put an offer in on the Lake Washington house with the private dock and floor-to-ceiling windows he’d been obsessing over for months.
I wanted to see his face light up.
I wanted to feel like a team.
I arrived twenty minutes early, wearing emerald green because Derek always said it made my eyes pop. The maître d’, Henry, smiled warmly.
“Table for three, Mrs. Sterling? Congratulations on whatever the occasion is.”
I sat in the corner booth, sipping sparkling water, watching the rain, planning how to give them the world.
While they were driving toward me, planning how to take mine apart.
When they walked in, something was wrong before I could name it.
Not the fact that they arrived together — Stacy lived on the route, so carpooling made sense. It was how they walked. Stacy looked manic, glowing in a tight pink dress completely unlike her usual oversized sweaters, scanning the room like she owned it. Derek walked a step behind her, pale under the dim lighting, fiddling with his tie, eyes searching for an emergency exit.
When I leaned in to kiss his cheek, he flinched.
It was subtle. Just a small jerk of his head. But I felt it.
I pushed through dinner. I told myself someone had a bad day, told myself the news about the promotion would lift the room. I said the words with real pride.
“They offered me the COO position. The salary increase is enormous. Derek — we can put in an offer on the Lake Washington house. We can move next month.”
Derek made a sound that was half choke, half groan.
Then Stacy reached across the table and took his hand.
And said the words that ended my marriage, my sisterhood, and my naïveté all at once.
I’m not going to walk you through every moment of the scene that followed. The chair scraping. The restaurant going silent. Stacy following me into the rain and telling me that Washington is a community property state — half of everything, the stocks, the savings, the new house. Derek using the pregnancy as a shield within the first five minutes. The two of them revealing they had already calculated property values and estimated alimony while lying in each other’s arms.
What I will tell you is the moment I drove away.
Stacy stood under the restaurant awning, dry and smug. I sat in my car with rain hammering the roof and something sharp and cold settling in my chest.
And then a memory surfaced.
Five years ago. A rainy afternoon. A lawyer’s office. A document Derek had laughed at.
My hands went tight on the wheel.
Did I still have it?
The condo was dark when I got home. His cologne still in the air, his Seahawks hoodie draped over the couch, a coffee ring already forming on the quartz countertop I paid for.
I walked straight past all of it. Down the hallway. Into the master closet. I pulled back the heavy wool rug.
There was a floor safe I’d had installed before I even met Derek. He knew it existed. He never bothered to learn the combination.
“That’s your secret stash,” he used to joke. “Keep your diamonds in there.”
I dialed the combination — my birthday, my college graduation date, the day I bought the condo.
Click.
Inside: my passport, emergency cash, my grandmother’s pearls, and a thick manila envelope.
I held my breath as I opened the clasp.
Prenuptial Agreement Between Valerie Sterling and Derek Miller.
I flipped to page three.
All assets acquired prior to the marriage and all assets acquired during the marriage resulting from the sole employment or investment of Wife shall remain the sole property of Wife.
Page seven: the condo designated as my separate property.
And then page twelve. The clause I’d almost forgotten I’d insisted on.
In the event of dissolution of marriage due to proven infidelity, the offending party forfeits any and all claims to spousal support and agrees to an immediate vacating of the marital residence.
I sat back on my heels and pressed the document to my chest.
And I laughed. Quietly at first, then shaking, then crying — but not from sadness.
From relief.
Derek had been so certain he’d never need to think about this document again. So certain I needed him more than he needed me. He’d signed it like a man signing away dental insurance he’d never use.
His arrogance was about to cost him everything.
I called Monica the next morning at seven-thirty. She’s been my friend since college. She’s also a family law attorney who wears Prada and operates the way a shark operates — efficiently and without sentiment.
“Val,” she said when she picked up. “It’s seven-thirty a.m. You never call this early unless someone died or you’re in jail.”
“Neither,” I said. “But I need you to clear your schedule.”
“Why?”
“Derek got Stacy pregnant. I need to invoke the nuclear option.”
A pause. Then the sound of a chair scraping back.
“Bring the prenup,” Monica said. “Bring the tax returns. And Val?”
“Yeah?”
“I’m going to make him cry.”
“Good,” I said. “Because I’m done.”
Monica’s office overlooked Puget Sound from the fortieth floor. She read the prenup in silence, turning pages, expression unchanged, while I sat across from her with my stomach in knots.
What if I’d been too soft? What if there were loopholes?
She looked up. A slow, dangerous smile.
“Who drafted this? Jenkins?”
“Before he retired.”
“I’m sending flowers to his nursing home,” she said. “Val, this is a fortress. He waived everything — spousal support, equity in the condo, retirement splitting. He even waived his right to contest unless he can prove fraud. Which he cannot.”
Then she told me the one problem: optics and delay. Washington is a no-fault divorce state. The affair itself doesn’t automatically trigger the prenup in court without process. If Derek decided to fight, he could drag things out for two years — not win, but stall.
“We need him to settle voluntarily,” Monica said. “We need him to think he’s won and then have the ground disappear beneath him.”
“He already thinks he’s won,” I said.
“Perfect.” Monica leaned forward. “Then let’s give him a stage to perform on.”
She handed me a USB drive. “Go home. Check his devices. Any joint property, any shared account, any device in that condo — document everything. I have a feeling there’s more.”
She was right.
Derek’s old iPad was sitting on the kitchen counter. He’d upgraded to a new one last month — on my card — and tossed this one without wiping it. Passcode: 1234.
I should have been offended by how little effort he put into security.
Instead, I opened a folder labeled “Finance.”
Inside: Tinder. Bumble.
I sat there for hours.
The sun went down. The city lights came on.
Screenshot. Save. Scroll. Repeat.
It wasn’t just Stacy. Stacy was just the one who got pregnant.
There was Sarah from the gym. Jessica from the coffee shop. Katie from a client dealership.
Messages going back years. To Sarah: My wife doesn’t understand me. We’re more like roommates. To Jessica: I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, just keeping up appearances. To Katie: She’s a workaholic. Cold. I’m just a guy looking for a little warmth.
He’d painted me as the villain in his story. The cold, corporate wife who made him feel small. And then I found the messages with Stacy.
Derek: Hey Stace, Val is working late again. Want to come over and help me “fix the sink”?
Stacy: lol. You’re awful. What if she comes home?
Derek: She won’t. She’s married to the office. Come on, I bought that wine you like.
And then from two months earlier — the pregnancy conversation:
Stacy: I’m late. I think I’m pregnant.
Derek: You said you were on the pill.
Stacy: I forgot a few days. Don’t be mad. This could be a good thing. Think about it — Val just got that promotion. If we play this right, we can get set up. She’s obsessed with family. If we present a united front, say we’re in love, she might just give us the house to make the problem go away. She hates scandal.
There it was.
Not a love story. A strategy.
Stacy hadn’t fallen for Derek. She’d engineered a situation and then recruited him to execute it. The baby was real. The plan around it was calculated.
I saved everything. Backed it up three ways. Emailed it to Monica.
Then I picked up my phone and called Stacy.
“Stacy, it’s Val,” I said, pitching my voice tired and hollow. “I’ve been thinking about what Mom said.”
The wariness in her voice dissolved instantly. “Oh, Val. I knew you’d be reasonable.”
I told her I’d spoken to a lawyer. I told her the lawyer said Derek was entitled to a fair share under community property law. I told her I didn’t want a long court battle.
“That’s so mature,” Stacy breathed.
“I want to meet,” I said. “Saturday night. Let’s go back to the Velvet Oak.”
A hesitation. “Isn’t that awkward after last time?”
“I think we need to rewrite that memory,” I said. “And I need a public place — if we meet at the condo I might lose my temper. I’ll bring the papers. I’ll bring the deed to the condo.”
“The deed?” Her voice jumped a register.
“If we can agree on terms, I’m ready to sign it over. You can have the nursery set up by Christmas.”
“Oh my god, Val,” she said. “You’re going to be the best aunt.”
I hung up and dropped the phone on the couch like it was contaminated.
They’d taken the bait.
Saturday night. The Velvet Oak. I arrived at six fifty-five.
Henry the maître d’ looked nervous. “Mrs. Sterling. Are you sure about this?”
“Just tying up loose ends,” I said. “Business.”
I sat in the corner booth facing the door. My briefcase on the table between us like a silent judge. Inside: a blue folder, a red folder, and a black folder.
At seven-oh-five, they walked in.
If they’d been nervous Thursday, tonight they were glowing.
Derek wore his best navy suit — the one I’d bought him for my company Christmas party. Stacy wore a flowing floral dress with her hand resting theatrically on a barely-there bump, moving through the dining room like she was carrying the heir to a kingdom.
They spotted me and exchanged the smile people exchange when they think they’ve already won.
“Val!” Derek boomed. “You look great.”
He moved to hug me.
I didn’t stand. I pointed to the seat across from me.
“Sit.”
He faltered, then recovered with manufactured warmth.
They slid into the booth. Stacy immediately eyeballed my briefcase. “Is that the paperwork?”
“It is,” I said. “But let’s order first. My treat — one last time.”
Stacy ordered lobster and truffle mac and cheese. Derek ordered scotch. So much for driving.
They were giddy. High on the smell of my surrender.
Derek leaned back and got comfortable. “I’m really glad you came around, Val. I told Stacy — Val is logical. She’ll see this is the best solution for everyone.”
Then he laid out the full ask, with the confidence of someone who has never had the ground disappear under him before.
The condo, paid off. The furniture. And twenty-five hundred dollars a month in spousal support for three years. Ninety thousand dollars total, on top of the property.
“It sounds like a lot,” Derek said, generous with my money, “but compared to your salary, it’s not much. You make that in a week.”
Stacy nodded earnestly. “Derek is used to a certain lifestyle. The law says you have to help maintain that.”
He reached into his jacket.
My Montblanc pen — the one missing for three weeks — appeared in his hand.
“So,” he said, clicking it. “Where do we sign? Do you have the deed?”
I looked at the pen.
I looked at his face.
I reached for the briefcase.
Click. Click.
They leaned forward like dogs who’ve heard the treat bag open.
I paused with my hand on the flap.
“Before I give you this,” I said quietly, “I need to ask you something, Derek. Do you remember the documents you signed five years ago? The ones you called ‘boring legal stuff’?”
Confusion flickered across his features.
“What does that have to do with anything? Just give me the deed.”
I smiled. Really smiled, for the first time in days.
Then I pulled out the blue folder.
It landed on the table with a dull thud.
Not the deed. Not a check.
A thick legal packet with an old law firm seal on the cover.
Derek stared at it. The arrogance faltered.
“What’s that?” Stacy asked.
“Open it,” I said to Derek.
He slid the paperwork out. His eyes found the title. He laughed — short, nervous.
“Val, come on. This is old. I was out of it when I signed it. You know that.”
I pulled a sheet from the red folder.
“This is an affidavit from Mr. Henderson. Your independent counsel. It states that on the day you signed, you were sober, alert, and specifically advised not to sign because the agreement was, quote, ‘extremely detrimental to your financial interests.’ You signed anyway.”
Derek’s face went from pink to gray.
“Read Article Three,” I said.
He didn’t move.
So I recited it.
“All assets acquired during the marriage resulting from the sole employment or investment of Wife shall remain the sole property of Wife. That means the condo. Mine. The 401k. Mine. The stock options. Mine. The savings account you’ve been draining. Also mine.”
“That’s not fair,” Stacy whispered. “You’re married. Community property—”
“Not with a valid prenup. And then there’s Article Twelve.”
Derek looked up.
“The infidelity clause,” I said. “In the event of dissolution of marriage due to proven adultery, the cheating spouse waives all claims to spousal support and must vacate the marital residence immediately.”
“Proven?” Derek tried. “You can’t prove—”
I opened the black folder.
Screenshots of dating profiles. Messages to Sarah. Messages to Jessica. Messages to Katie.
And then the messages between Derek and Stacy.
Derek: She’s a cash cow, Stacy. Once we get the house, we’re set.
Stacy grabbed the page. Her face went white.
“You—”
“You documented your own scheme,” I said. “Time-stamped. Location-tagged. And before you say it’s illegal — it’s an iPad he left unlocked in our shared marital home. It’s admissible.”
The table went silent.
I leaned forward slightly.
“So. You get zero in alimony. Zero equity in the condo. Zero percent of my retirement.”
Derek slumped back like something had been cut out of him.
“You can’t do this,” he muttered. “I have nothing. I literally have nothing.”
“You have your job,” I said. “Oh — you’ve barely sold anything lately. That might be a problem.”
Stacy started crying. Real tears this time, ugly ones.
“We have a baby coming. You can’t let your niece or nephew go without. You have to help us.”
“I have helped you your entire life,” I said quietly. “I paid your rent. I bought your car. I bailed you out every time you called. And you used all of it to plan this.”
“Derek said you would pay,” she sobbed, turning on him. “He promised. He said you were soft.”
“Enough,” Derek snapped.
Their alliance, such as it was, cracked open right there at the table.
“There is someone who will have to support you, Stacy,” I said. “Legally. Derek.”
I opened the calculator on my phone.
“Washington state — non-custodial parent, one child, roughly twenty percent of net income. Derek’s base salary, after taxes, is maybe thirty-two hundred a month. That’s about six hundred and forty dollars to you.” I turned the screen toward them. “Out of what remains, he needs rent, car payment, insurance, food, gas. This is Seattle. Good luck.”
Derek stared at the numbers like a man watching his house burn from the street.
“Val,” he whispered. “Please. I’m your husband.”
“Ex-husband,” I said. “Soon-to-be. And honestly, you wanted to be the man of the house. Go be one.”
I stood, smoothed my jacket, and picked up my briefcase.
“The waiter has the bill. I paid for my sparkling water. Lobster and scotch are on you.”
Derek patted his pockets. “I don’t have my wallet.”
“Left mine in the car,” Stacy said quickly.
“Sounds like a personal problem,” I said.
I looked at them one last time. The man I’d carried for five years, sweating through his best suit. My sister, realizing she’d bet everything on a losing hand.
“My lawyer will be in touch Monday. Don’t come to the condo. I changed the locks an hour ago.”
I walked away.
Behind me, their voices rose.
“You told me you read the contract!” Stacy’s voice, shrill.
“You’re the one who said—” Derek, cracking.
“Sir, ma’am—” the waiter, strained. “You do need to pay this bill.”
I pushed through the heavy wooden doors and stepped out into the Seattle rain.
This time I didn’t run.
I walked. Slow and steady, face tilted up to the cold, clean night.
Then I got in my car, turned the music up loud, and drove home.
Of course it wasn’t over.
People like Derek don’t give up easily. He found a lawyer — not a good one, the kind that advertises on bus stops — and filed a motion to contest the prenup. He claimed he’d signed under duress, wasn’t fully aware, and wanted three thousand dollars a month in temporary support while the case was pending.
Two weeks later, I sat in a Washington courtroom in my black suit.
Derek’s attorney gave a passionate speech about his “simple, loving client” being tricked by a “predatory corporate professional.”
Monica stood up without theatrics.
She handed the judge a packet.
“Exhibit A. The affidavit from Mr. Henderson — Mr. Miller’s own independent counsel — documenting that his client was sober, fully advised, and signed against strong counsel recommendation.”
She produced one more page.
“Exhibit B. A text message from the same afternoon. Sent twenty minutes after signing.”
She read aloud: Just signed the prenup. Whatever. She’s successful and obsessed with me. I’ll never really need to worry about money again. Time to golf.
The judge read it. Looked over her glasses at Derek.
“Mr. Miller, you wrote this twenty minutes after signing the document?”
“I was joking,” he mumbled.
“It doesn’t read like a joke,” the judge said. “It reads like a man who understood exactly what he signed and assumed he’d never be held to it.”
Her gavel came down.
Motion for temporary support denied. The prenuptial agreement stands.
In the hallway afterward, Derek grabbed my arm.
“Val, please. I’m staying in a motel. Stacy is stressed constantly. I can’t—”
“You have a sales background,” I said, stepping back. “Go sell something.”
“I got fired. I was distracted. I messed up.”
“Not my problem.”
“But the baby—”
“The baby is innocent,” I said. “If she needs formula or diapers, I’ll have it delivered directly to Stacy’s door. Cash to you? Never.”
I walked away.
The divorce was finalized sixty days later. One of the cleanest separations Monica had ever processed.
Derek got his car — which he had to sell two months later when I stopped making the payments. He got his clothes. He got his debt.
I got the condo. The stocks. My life back.
My parents showed up at my office two days after the divorce was final.
My mother slammed her purse on my desk. “You heartless woman. You left him with nothing. You left your pregnant sister in a rundown rental.”
“Hello,” I said, not looking up from my laptop.
“Don’t get smart. We raised you better than this.”
“You raised me to give and give and give,” I said. “And I did. For thirty-two years. And when I needed you to stand by me, you chose the people who hurt me.”
My father stepped forward. “You’re letting family starve—”
I reached into my desk drawer. I pulled out a USB drive, plugged it into my monitor, and pressed play.
Stacy appeared on screen. Laughing. Holding up Grandma’s diamond ring — the one that had gone missing five years ago. The one they fired Maria the housekeeper for stealing.
“Got two grand for this old thing,” Stacy giggled. “Trip, here we come.”
My mother’s face went slack.
“She must have been desperate,” Mom whispered.
“Get out,” I said quietly. “I’m closing the bank. Permanently.”
Security walked them to the elevator.
My father’s last words at the door: “You are no daughter of ours.”
I had heard some version of that sentence my entire life, weaponized to keep me in line.
It was the first time it didn’t land.
“I haven’t been your daughter in a long time,” I said. “I’ve just been your bank. And the bank is closed.”
Derek and Stacy lasted four months after the money dried up.
Without my income, reality arrived fast. They moved to a cheaper rental south of the airport. Derek lost the dealership job — unreliable, word got around — and ended up at a used car lot working commission only. Arguments started. Neighbors called the police. Eventually Derek moved to his parents’ basement.
My parents, stripped of my monthly transfers, had to refinance their house to help with Stacy’s bills. Their European retirement trip became babysitting and emergency loans.
Stacy got a job at a dental office — receptionist, nine to five, fluorescent lights, sensible shoes. Her car was repossessed. She took the bus.
One afternoon, stopped at a red light downtown, I glanced out my window and saw a man waiting for the bus in the rain. No umbrella. Ill-fitting suit. Older-looking than he should be.
Derek.
The light turned green.
I pressed the accelerator on my new Porsche and drove away.
I didn’t feel joy. I didn’t feel anger.
I felt nothing.
He was a lesson I’d already learned.
Stacy reached out once more through a burner account.
Val, it’s me. Bella is sick. She needs medicine. Please. I’m sorry.
I called a pharmacy near her address. Paid for the prescription. Had it delivered anonymously.
Then I blocked the account.
The child was innocent. I would never let her suffer.
But I would not open that door.
Two years later, I was standing on the balcony of my new penthouse above Pike Place Market. Summer sun on the water. A soft yellow dress instead of black.
“Coffee?” a voice said behind me.
Grant. An architect I’d met at a charity gala. Forty, established, independent in the way that only people who built their own lives actually are.
When things got serious between us, I brought up a prenup.
I braced myself.
Grant laughed. “Val, I was going to ask you for one. I’ve got my own firm to protect. And I want to make sure your assets stay yours. I fell for you, not your accounts.”
He read every page carefully. Asked smart questions.
Then he signed.
Some people might call it unromantic.
To me it was the most romantic moment of my life. It was two people choosing each other with clear eyes, with full knowledge of who the other person was, with zero expectation of rescue.
It was mutual respect. Which is what love actually looks like when you stop confusing it with need.
I received an email on my thirty-fifth birthday.
It was from Derek.
He wrote that Stacy had left him for someone she met at the dental office. That he hardly saw Bella. That he was working in a logistics warehouse in Tacoma, driving a forklift. He said he thought about the night at the Velvet Oak every day. He said I was right about everything.
You were right about the prenup. You were right about me. I hope you’re happy. You deserve it.
I hovered over the reply button.
Then I clicked delete.
Block sender.
Grant appeared in the doorway with a garment bag. “Ready? Reservation’s at seven. I found this great Italian place — or if you’re feeling nostalgic, we could go back to the Velvet Oak.”
I laughed. A real, deep laugh from somewhere I’d almost forgotten existed.
“No,” I said, taking his hand. “Let’s go somewhere new.”
And we walked out of that penthouse leaving the past exactly where it belonged — behind a closed door, in the dark, taking up no more space than it deserved.
If there’s one thing I want you to take from this story, it isn’t about revenge.
I didn’t win because I had a good lawyer or a lucky document in a floor safe. I won because I finally stopped needing people to love me more than I needed to protect myself.
For thirty-two years, I bent myself into shapes to earn approval from people who had decided before I walked in the room that I would never quite be enough. I paid for it. I worked for it. I swallowed it. I smiled through it.
And all of that generosity — every dollar, every favor, every moment I chose their comfort over my own dignity — was not love. It was fear dressed up as love.
The prenup wasn’t a betrayal of marriage. It was the first honest thing in that relationship. A document that said: I know my own worth. Do you?
Derek didn’t. He thought it was a joke.
The joke was his.
Read the fine print. Know what you’re signing. Know what you’re worth.
And never, ever put the key to your freedom in someone else’s pocket.

Specialty: Emotional Turning Points
Rachel Monroe writes character-driven stories about betrayal, second chances, and unexpected resilience. Her work highlights the emotional side of family conflict — the silences, the misunderstandings, and the moments when someone quietly decides they’ve had enough.