I signed the first forms before midnight.
Questions about burial or cremation. Personal belongings. Who had legal authority to make decisions.
Every question felt like a door Christopher should have walked through.
He never did.
I gave them everything I knew. Twenty years of filling out Gertrude’s paperwork.
Her birthday. March 3rd, 1944. Her medication list. All eleven. Her preferred funeral home, Bradley and Sons on Haddon Avenue. The church she stopped going to when the front steps got too hard for her knees. The phone number of her friend Dottie, who still mailed her a Christmas card every single year.
By morning, I’d done everything grief required.
I drove home through empty streets with Gertrude’s overnight bag on the passenger seat.
Her reading glasses were tucked into the side pocket. A half-finished roll of Brach’s peppermints sat at the bottom, next to a folded tissue and a little bottle of Jergens hand lotion.
At a red light on Route 70, I put my hand on that bag. Like steadying it could steady me.
Christopher sent a text just after sunrise.
In meetings all day. Don’t create a crisis while I’m gone.
I read it once.
Then I turned my phone face down on the seat.
The funeral arrangements took the whole next day.
I chose the plain white urn. The funeral director had offered three. A dark wood box. A blue ceramic one with painted roses. And a plain white one. Gertrude always hated anything she called “fussy.”
I approved a short notice for the Courier-Post. I found her navy dress in the guest room closet and held it against my chest for a long time before I folded it back into the garment bag.
I called the people she would’ve wanted called.
At first, nobody asked where Christopher was. They all assumed he was on his way.
I let them assume it. I didn’t have the strength to explain him.
When Mr. Bradley at the funeral home asked if we should wait to schedule the memorial until her son got back, I looked at the calendar on his wall. And I thought about thirty calls disappearing into voicemail.
“No,” I said. “She’s waited long enough.”
That evening, I set the urn on the mantel above our fireplace.
The house looked exactly the same as it did before.
Christopher’s loafers by the back door. His unopened mail stacked neatly on the kitchen counter. A dry-cleaning ticket stuck to the refrigerator with a magnet shaped like a lobster from Cape May.
The ordinary shape of our life made the loss feel almost impossible.
Then I finally opened my hand.
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