When I married Ray Henderson, I was twenty-three years old, working as a receptionist at a dentist’s office in Fort Wayne, Indiana. He was twenty-six and sold farm equipment. He had a big laugh and big hands and big plans.
“I want a big family, Linda,” he told me on our second date, at a Pizza Hut on Coliseum Boulevard. “A loud house. A table that’s never empty.”
I laughed. I thought he was joking.
He wasn’t.
We had six children in ten years.
Mark came first. Then Jason, sixteen months later. Then Caleb. Then Grant. Then Sarah. And then Eliza, the baby, born when I was thirty-three and so tired I fell asleep in the hospital bed holding her.
Four boys. Two girls. And enough noise to shake the walls of our little three-bedroom house on Wells Street.
Ray got his loud house.
For a while, he seemed to love it. He’d come home from work and wrestle the boys on the living room carpet. He’d carry the girls around on his shoulders. On Sundays, he’d make his famous pancakes shaped like Mickey Mouse, which never actually looked like Mickey Mouse.
Then, somewhere around Eliza’s sixth birthday, Ray decided the noise was too much.
He started staying late at work. Then later. Then he started spending his evenings on the family computer in the basement, with the door closed.
He’d met a woman online. In the Philippines. They’d been talking for eight months.
One Saturday morning in March, when Eliza was six and Mark was sixteen, Ray packed one suitcase and stood in our front hallway.
“I need to find myself, Linda,” he said. “I can’t breathe in this house.”
“You have six children, Ray.”
“You’re better with them than I am anyway.”
And he walked out the front door. Got in his truck. And drove away.
I didn’t know it yet, standing in that hallway, but he’d already emptied our joint savings account. Fourteen thousand dollars. Every cent we had. Two days before.
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